I’m sure you’ve all heard this one.
A comedian comes out on stage and says, “Ask me, ‘what’s the most important thing about comedy.’”
The audience plays along.
“What’s the most important th- …”
“Timing!!!” the comedian yells out, cutting off the audience.
Everyone laughs because it’s true, timing is the most important part of comedy. Deliver a punch line poorly, the joke is lost and you are looking for a new career.
However, comedy isn’t the only place where timing is the most important. Timing plays a significant role in relationships.
If you are ready to settle down and he still wants to party, it’s likely not going to work no matter the cosmic connection.
Or in my case, it doesn’t matter that we interacted so well, that I loved him entirely, that we had fun together or that the sex was fantastic.
In the end he wants someone to settle down with, have a traditional family with and live happily ever after with. It’s not that I don’t want that, I just want it differently and I believe my version is too complicated for him.
Maybe we would (or who knows will) get to the same vision eventually, but for now, the timing is all off.
So in the end, relationships have a lot in common with comedy — without good timing, they are both just bad jokes.
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