I started this blog in the hopes that I might one day figure myself out … especially when it came to men. Initially it was set to have a 365 day theme — you know a year to myself, with no dating. I was going to learn me, then set out into the world strong, empowered and ready for anything and then I was going start dating.
Funny how things turn out. I’m glad I avoiding a year of living dangerously as a strict timeline, as here I am — almost a year and a half later — with lots of work pending. Sure I have a better understanding of myself, but when it comes to men, ha.
While reviewing some text messages the other day, I realized with the not great dating hands I’ve been delivered of late, it is little wonder I trust men at all. Not that anything terrible has happened, but the one man (who caused the start of this blog) made me think I was going to get married and be in love, before telling me that he just didn’t see me in his future. Another who I resisted liking at first, but managed to convince me that it was real, then just stopped, without warning. For a while I thought I had misunderstood, but after rereading some of his messages, I realized I problem wasn’t me (more on that disaster another time).
While there is a lot to be angry over, especially considering how much trouble I have with the concept of dating, I’m not particularly hurt or angry by any of these past events. In fact, I’m at the point where I realize that for all I have lost when giving my heart away, I have gained a few things when it was returned to me.
Those people that seemed to cause the most pain are also those that have left the biggest impact. I started running after the American left — running was something I never imagined I would like, even two years ago — this year I’m running 5K races and am planning on a 10K for later in the summer.
After being treated like a virtual stranger, by a man who more or less told me he wanted to be by my side all the time, I remembered my love for piano. He played beautifully and without his music in my life anymore, I realized I needed to create my own. Piano has become a big part of my life, a place to unwind from a long day and think hard about something besides work.
As I go back through those I have loved and lost, I realize a big part of who I am now is shaped by those I trusted and loved in the past, whether family, friends or lovers. It makes all the experiences, the heartbreak, the changes all worthwhile.
So, while I may not have had a 365-day turn around, I’ve learned a lot and I look forward to continuing to grow. Who knows what comes next, aside from 365 more
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